DRAMA, and baby news

I have been shopping dude date club message boards, and have yet to find one I like.  This is super sad, because I loved my DDC from parents.com the first time around...the only thing I had to overlook were the posts of questions you'd know the answers to if you cracked any pregnancy book ever (or just used google? lol), and this one chick who was kind of crazy.

But I digress.

Parents.com changed their look, and I hate it when a message board doesn't look like a message board.  Call me old.  Fashioned.  Or just old.

I joined up at JustMommies.com, thinking it would be okay, and then this gem popped up on our board about another DDC about circumcision.  Personally, I think circ'ing is a very personal choice, but this post was very inflammatory (the title had something about death in it...come on now!) and someone posted their thoughts about it on our boards.  Well all hades broke loose!  First, it was the first DDC posting about how the second DDC were talking smack about them and judging and what not, and then it was the secondd DDC saying ooooh we need to apologize, should we make a special thread?  Seriously?  People had already apologized.  On several threads.  Also?  They posted this on a PUBLIC forum on the INTERNET.  Are they seriously surprised that someone else read it?

People on one of the boards were talking about how when you're passionate about something, sometimes you come off as rude.  I think that is so silly!  There are many things I am passionate about, especially when it comes to parenting, but I hold my tongue because I know it will only hurt feelings.  For instance, I am a big advocate for using parent directed feeding, which is taught in the book On Becoming Babywise.  Granted, the book is very poorly written (and BW2 is even worse!), the tactics in the book are solid and have worked well for my family.  My son started sleeping from 11pm-7am at 11 weeks, and is now 15 months old, has two 2 hour naps a day, and sleeps 11 hours at night (though I suspect he would sleep longer if we let him!).  Either way, I know that some folks out there consider BW to be super controversial (though mostly I think it's because of misinformation and older versions of the book, but again, I digress), so I don't go around posting topics on message boards about how I think other parenting styles are terrible for babies.  Do I disagree with them?  Sure, but it's your prerogative as a parent to make those choices for your family.

There is a difference between being passionate about something, and being pushy about something.  My motto?  Do your own thing, and let others do theirs.  I understand wanting people to be well read on topics...even controversial ones...but in the end it's not your choice what others do with their babies.

Sorry to rant!  I was really hoping to find a close knit group of women like I had last time...not sure yet if that's what I've found.  Sticking it out to see what comes of it.  There are a couple of ladies that I have semi-connected with.

Had an appointment today...thought we were going to get to hear the heartbeat, but only got to see it on the u/s.  Got another little pic of my punkin, though!  Also got to meet the other doctor at my new practice (the other doc delivered Oliver, so we've met, lol)...he was nice.  Off to bed I go!