DRAMA, and baby news

I have been shopping dude date club message boards, and have yet to find one I like.  This is super sad, because I loved my DDC from parents.com the first time around...the only thing I had to overlook were the posts of questions you'd know the answers to if you cracked any pregnancy book ever (or just used google? lol), and this one chick who was kind of crazy.

But I digress.

Parents.com changed their look, and I hate it when a message board doesn't look like a message board.  Call me old.  Fashioned.  Or just old.

I joined up at JustMommies.com, thinking it would be okay, and then this gem popped up on our board about another DDC about circumcision.  Personally, I think circ'ing is a very personal choice, but this post was very inflammatory (the title had something about death in it...come on now!) and someone posted their thoughts about it on our boards.  Well all hades broke loose!  First, it was the first DDC posting about how the second DDC were talking smack about them and judging and what not, and then it was the secondd DDC saying ooooh we need to apologize, should we make a special thread?  Seriously?  People had already apologized.  On several threads.  Also?  They posted this on a PUBLIC forum on the INTERNET.  Are they seriously surprised that someone else read it?

People on one of the boards were talking about how when you're passionate about something, sometimes you come off as rude.  I think that is so silly!  There are many things I am passionate about, especially when it comes to parenting, but I hold my tongue because I know it will only hurt feelings.  For instance, I am a big advocate for using parent directed feeding, which is taught in the book On Becoming Babywise.  Granted, the book is very poorly written (and BW2 is even worse!), the tactics in the book are solid and have worked well for my family.  My son started sleeping from 11pm-7am at 11 weeks, and is now 15 months old, has two 2 hour naps a day, and sleeps 11 hours at night (though I suspect he would sleep longer if we let him!).  Either way, I know that some folks out there consider BW to be super controversial (though mostly I think it's because of misinformation and older versions of the book, but again, I digress), so I don't go around posting topics on message boards about how I think other parenting styles are terrible for babies.  Do I disagree with them?  Sure, but it's your prerogative as a parent to make those choices for your family.

There is a difference between being passionate about something, and being pushy about something.  My motto?  Do your own thing, and let others do theirs.  I understand wanting people to be well read on topics...even controversial ones...but in the end it's not your choice what others do with their babies.

Sorry to rant!  I was really hoping to find a close knit group of women like I had last time...not sure yet if that's what I've found.  Sticking it out to see what comes of it.  There are a couple of ladies that I have semi-connected with.

Had an appointment today...thought we were going to get to hear the heartbeat, but only got to see it on the u/s.  Got another little pic of my punkin, though!  Also got to meet the other doctor at my new practice (the other doc delivered Oliver, so we've met, lol)...he was nice.  Off to bed I go!

Love.

Yesterday was the anniversary of my first date with Levi.  Eleven years ago, we met up at his new college digs, had dinner, and went to see Deep Blue Sea.  =D  I fondly remember him NOT holding my hand and shushing me during the movie!  lol  It was an awkward sort of date, because we had been friends for so long, but we had a nice time.

Monday is our seventh wedding anniversary.  I accidentally saw on the bank statement online that he ordered me flowers (for the second time this month!), even though I totally told him never to do so again because it costs so much, and grocery store flowers?  Still pretty.  We're planning on going out to dinner somewhere.  Levi is planning it, and I'm going to be surprised.  Romantic, no?  =)

Things on the baby front are fine, though I don't remember this much round ligament pain this early on.  At least I think that's what it is...or at least it's what the OB called it.  All I want to do is eat (and it's hard not to!!), but I'm trying to eat well.  This morning was yogurt and a string cheese.  Lunch will be a salad and a sammich.  But for dinner, since Levi is going to be at his nerd day all day long, I've decided to order pizza.  LOL!  A pizza with no sauce, add bacon, to be exact.  Basically, it's like cheese sticks with bacon.  So.  Good.

Other than being hungry, I have no other symptoms.  Per usual.  Hooray!  We have another u/s appointment in a couple of weeks. We went from poppy seed baby to apple seed baby this week.  Hooray!  I'll keep you updated!

!!$#%^&$!!

I keep wavering on whether or not to share some news we recently got, and I figure not a whole lot of people read this blog anyway, so what the hey.  Baby #2 is in the oven!  Please be discreet on FB and other such sites, until we're through the first trimester.

We found out Saturday, August 21.  I had high post ovulation temps for 12 days, and my normal luteal phase is about 12 days, so I took a test in the middle of the afternoon and was happy to see two beautiful pink lines!  After two previous stark white negatives, those two pink lines were day-making.  =)

So anyway, I'm just barely pregnant.  My first appointment was yesterday, and everything looks great.  I asked the sonographer, "It's a boy, right?"  lol...I was 4 weeks 4 days along at that point.  =D  I am thinking due to the timing of intercourse, it may be a boy.  I hope so!

I'm due, according to my LMP, on April 29, 2011.  However, I ovulated on day 18 of my cycle rather than day 14, so I'm thinking May 3 is more like it.  The best part?  My brother in law is graduating high school on May 8, 2011!  My poor in laws, lol.  I'm assuming I'll go a week early, since we will be scheduling a repeat c-section this time around (no judgments, please, I've weighed the risks carefully with my husband and my healthcare provider, and have decided that a VBAC is just not worth the risks), I'll have a little more control over when baby comes rather than laboring for over 30 hours last time around.  I'd really like to keep the little bun in there as close to 40 weeks as possible, but I recall what it's like being 38 weeks pregnant (I went all the way to 41 last time!), so we'll see what the OB thinks the closer we get.  I'll also have 2 under 2 for almost a WHOLE MONTH!  lol  I think I can take it.

So!  In all of my spare time, I've of course been obsessing online over every thing pregnancy related.  Message boards, web sites...all things baby!  I remember that this is exactly how I was last time around, only this time I have time and experience on my side.  =)

Almost time for the tot to get up.  More updates to come!